Monday, October 24, 2011

Anger

I am angry at the world today.  It has been an unusually tough week, but today just seems like the tipping point.  I want to just blow up and unfortunately, it is my husband who is the only human here for me to yell at.  I have managed to avoid yelling at him so far, but I need an outlet and I need it quick.  I already tried one thing: I went over to him and I told him to just ignore my nasty look for a few seconds.  So, I then proceeded to give him a dirty look and run all of my angry thoughts through my head in rapid speed, hoping that if I just thought them and not said them, that it would make me feel better.  It didn’t.

I am now up here blogging, still trying to figure out WHY I am mad, hoping this will relieve my stress.  I think it’s a lot of things.  This week was already difficult due to finding out my LAS score was increased to the point that I could expect a call for transplant any day (Read more here).  I wasn’t really thinking about transplant that much, but this magic number of 40 just all of a sudden made it so real for me.

Second, Joe hurt his hand during a camping trip (Read more here) this weekend.  I am angry at the situation of course, I am NOT directly angry at Joe – accidents happen.  I am just angry because I didn’t really want him to go on this trip in the first place, and if he wouldn’t have gone, he wouldn’t be injured.  He is now limited in some of the ways that he’s been helping me (including ability to do hand treatments) and it just isn’t the right time for this at all, especially because I may be called for transplant.  I KNOW he’s really upset about it too, so I have not given him a hard time at all about it, because that is the last thing he needs.  I want to be supportive while he heals, but right now I am just so angry about the situation, I want to scream. SO I AM SCREAMING RIGHT NOW!!!!!   I am totally holding in all this emotion right now and it’s putting me in a really bad state of mind.

Third, I am mad at myself for being lax these past two weeks about getting my butt to rehab.  I only went once last week and it was realllllllly hard for me to get there today.  I’ve just been so depressed these past two weeks, but I know in my heart that I will feel better after I work out, so I just need to get back into it.

I have just been on such a streak of positive-ness, that I suppose a funk was bound to happen, especially with these events occurring all in the same week.  I just need to find a way to vent, let it out and get positive again without taking it out on my spouse.  That certainly won’t make anything better.  I feel a little better now that I typed all of this out.  Hopefully a good night’s sleep and good news tomorrow for Joe’s hand surgery (positive thought!) will turn my frown upside down.

3 comments:

  1. Laura, I'm so sorry you are feeling frustrated and angry right now. I hope Joe's hand heals quickly and you get the good news of transplant soon. Things in my house haven't been the best either since August, I'd love to get together and chat/vent. Let me know if you need a venting session soon! Much Love~

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  2. It's ok to be angry every now and again! You almost always have such a positive outlook- that's one of my very favorite things about you! That and your beautiful smile. Sometimes life happens and gets in the way, but you'll bounce back. Working out will definitely help your grumpyness, so get your butt up and go! :-) you'll get past this in time. If you ever need anything, even if it's just to talk, don't hesitate to call me! You're always in my heart, my thoughts, and my prayers.
    Wanna hear my favorite joke? Here goes: "a horse walks into a bar. The bartender asks, 'why the long face??'" Hahahaha ok it's lame but I can't tell you how many times I've laughed telling that joke!
    Love you always!

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  3. I think you are highly evolved to recognize your anger, the need to express it and the fact that it is temporary. I hope you don't beat yourself up over not feeling super positive all the time. I admire your honesty and recognize positivity is only one aspect of being authentic. Anger is another. Keep on keepin on with your authentic self. So much good has already come forth in your life and more is on its way. Holding you and Joe in my highest thoughts. -Jason

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